Why are teenagers so rude these days?
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May 10, 2011 - TNP Forum
I had an unpleasant dinning encounter this evening at Thomson Plaza Kopitiam foodcourt which I see the need to raise this matter on forum page, hoping that the experience can be used as examples of social grace and courtesy that teenagers and public need to observe.
The 4-persons table and 2-persons table adjacent to it were empty when I arrived at the foodcourt to have dinner with my mother and daughter. Both my mother and daughter sat at the empty 4-persons table first while I went to top up my value card. I came back shortly but was caught by surprise by a teenager (boy about 14-17 years old, in dark blue colour school polo-tee) who just arrived and sat at the empty 2-persons table, with his dish of food, staring at my mother rudely.
I asked my mother what had happened and was shocked to know that the teenager chased away my mother and my daughter rudely by raising his voice at them, citing that the seats were all taken. I was definitely not happy about his unreasonable act as the 2 tables were empty in the first place when I arrived with my family. I approached the teenager and told him that tables were empty in the first place and that they are not for reservations.
He, however, gave me an arrogant stare and told me off rudely that the seats were already taken and that I should not talk about it anymore. His elder brother (in polo shirt with a school logo SRJC)arrived then and told me off that the seats were taken and just placed his dish of food on the table too. The arrogant teeanager had the cheek to advise the elder brother not to talk to me anymore and tried to shame me by telling his brother loudly that I might get people to beat them up. Concurrently, this teanager's younger sister (in red dress, about 6-8 years old) walked to the empty 4-persons table and said rudely "Shoo!" to my daughter who is still sitting on the chair.
I am very taken aback by the teanagers' arrogance, rudeness, and lack of social grace and the bad example they had set. I decided to change to another table first while awaiting to see if the teeanagers were with their parents. After their parents arrived and sat down, the teeanager who first chased away my mother and daughter, stared at me from his table and gave me a deliberate winning grin with his fingers pushing up his mouth end-to-end. How absurd can this teenager be? Why are teeanagers so rude and insensitive these days?
I decided I should talk to one of their parents after their dinner as I am concerned that their parents may not be aware what had actually happen. When they had finished their dinner and on their way out of foodcourt, I quickly caught up with them. The elder brother saw me walking towards his mother and had deliberately blocked me by walking in between me and his mother. I stretched out my hand to tap his mother's shoulder, addressing her 'Madam'. The mother turned around and I asked her politely if I can have a word with her.
The arrogant teeanager (the boy who first chased us away) hurried in front of his mother, and challenged at me loudly (and accusing me) that "....if I want to quarrel with his mum, I have to go through him first!" I turned to his father and said to him that I need to talk to either him or his madam, of which his father then asked the kids to proceed to buy bread. The two boys followed but the girl clinged on the mother, not wanting to allow her mother to stay back to talk to me. Fortunately, the mother was kind enough to stay and talk to me and asked her daughter to follow her father first.
Though it was a good chat I had with the mother and the conversation ended amicably, I hope that such incident will not happen on others in the foodcourt again. As long as the tables and chairs are empty in the first place when customers / patrons arrive, they can have the seats first. The "bully" tactic on old people and children or anyone, to get the seats that one wants cannot be condone. I hope the above real experience I had can be of help to educate teeanagers to exercise more control and politeness in their behaviour.
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wah talk long story. i hate long stories. why do they even get published.
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I wonder what your mother and daughter tell them when you top up your card.
If your story is true, then it is really a terrible experience to encounter those young students acting like a bully.
My advice when you encounter this situation again, go to the next table if there is the empty table. No point arguing with young people.
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tts why we need tissue paper. or security passes.
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I only know teenagers/adults pretend never seeing old ppl on MRT so no need give up their seats.
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i see before ah beng give up seat to old man
the old man scold him "u think i useless already ah"
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Originally posted by QX179R:
May 10, 2011 - TNP Forum
I had an unpleasant dinning encounter this evening at Thomson Plaza Kopitiam foodcourt which I see the need to raise this matter on forum page, hoping that the experience can be used as examples of social grace and courtesy that teenagers and public need to observe.
The 4-persons table and 2-persons table adjacent to it were empty when I arrived at the foodcourt to have dinner with my mother and daughter. Both my mother and daughter sat at the empty 4-persons table first while I went to top up my value card. I came back shortly but was caught by surprise by a teenager (boy about 14-17 years old, in dark blue colour school polo-tee) who just arrived and sat at the empty 2-persons table, with his dish of food, staring at my mother rudely.
I asked my mother what had happened and was shocked to know that the teenager chased away my mother and my daughter rudely by raising his voice at them, citing that the seats were all taken. I was definitely not happy about his unreasonable act as the 2 tables were empty in the first place when I arrived with my family. I approached the teenager and told him that tables were empty in the first place and that they are not for reservations.
He, however, gave me an arrogant stare and told me off rudely that the seats were already taken and that I should not talk about it anymore. His elder brother (in polo shirt with a school logo SRJC)arrived then and told me off that the seats were taken and just placed his dish of food on the table too. The arrogant teeanager had the cheek to advise the elder brother not to talk to me anymore and tried to shame me by telling his brother loudly that I might get people to beat them up. Concurrently, this teanager's younger sister (in red dress, about 6-8 years old) walked to the empty 4-persons table and said rudely "Shoo!" to my daughter who is still sitting on the chair.
I am very taken aback by the teanagers' arrogance, rudeness, and lack of social grace and the bad example they had set. I decided to change to another table first while awaiting to see if the teeanagers were with their parents. After their parents arrived and sat down, the teeanager who first chased away my mother and daughter, stared at me from his table and gave me a deliberate winning grin with his fingers pushing up his mouth end-to-end. How absurd can this teenager be? Why are teeanagers so rude and insensitive these days?
I decided I should talk to one of their parents after their dinner as I am concerned that their parents may not be aware what had actually happen. When they had finished their dinner and on their way out of foodcourt, I quickly caught up with them. The elder brother saw me walking towards his mother and had deliberately blocked me by walking in between me and his mother. I stretched out my hand to tap his mother's shoulder, addressing her 'Madam'. The mother turned around and I asked her politely if I can have a word with her.
The arrogant teeanager (the boy who first chased us away) hurried in front of his mother, and challenged at me loudly (and accusing me) that "....if I want to quarrel with his mum, I have to go through him first!" I turned to his father and said to him that I need to talk to either him or his madam, of which his father then asked the kids to proceed to buy bread. The two boys followed but the girl clinged on the mother, not wanting to allow her mother to stay back to talk to me. Fortunately, the mother was kind enough to stay and talk to me and asked her daughter to follow her father first.
Though it was a good chat I had with the mother and the conversation ended amicably, I hope that such incident will not happen on others in the foodcourt again. As long as the tables and chairs are empty in the first place when customers / patrons arrive, they can have the seats first. The "bully" tactic on old people and children or anyone, to get the seats that one wants cannot be condone. I hope the above real experience I had can be of help to educate teeanagers to exercise more control and politeness in their behaviour.
Who was the one that wrote this story? -
One side of the story only, very hard to believe.
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nowadays teenagers are strawberry.... very easily bruised de...
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Originally posted by FireIce:
i see before ah beng give up seat to old man
the old man scold him "u think i useless already ah"
Last time I gave up seat to pregnant lady, "you think i fat ar?" lan lan, I got off the train at the next stop. -
Originally posted by ditzy:
Last time I gave up seat to pregnant lady, "you think i fat ar?" lan lan, I got off the train at the next stop.maybe tts my fwen
bcos she told me got ppl attempted to give up seat to her as she has a big tummy
she is just fat
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Originally posted by ditzy:
Last time I gave up seat to pregnant lady, "you think i fat ar?" lan lan, I got off the train at the next stop.
Most time people who need seats doesn't want to sit. -
Story's valid but TNP did a bad job editing the English. I'd boycott TNP anyway after their irresponsible reporting on the SDP rally.
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Don't expect all teenagers to be good.
Not all teenagers are rude.
I have seen teenagers happily giving up seats to aunties on MRT trains and stand the rest of the journey. Not the reserved seats mind you.
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wow... thats harsh...
teenager myself... is there a misunderstanding? dont think teenagers will be so fierce to their seniors?
especially someone of their parent generation
maybe they put some tissue paper on it then another idiot or wind or watever walk by -
yeah one side of the story
like the chwee kueh and the fork
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then the tissue paper drop or something?
if not they really are very rude...parents cui..nv teach
maybe its something like they ask the smallest kid sit there wait. then she ran to find parent.... and assume its their seats le... small kids dont think very far? -
Take picture and post on stomp to shame them, haha very good tactic...
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Originally posted by ditzy:
Last time I gave up seat to pregnant lady, "you think i fat ar?" lan lan, I got off the train at the next stop.If I am you and get this kind of remarks, I will shout at her saying "I give you seats and you scold me? F*(&(*& OFF ok!"
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Originally posted by likeyou:
If I am you and get this kind of remarks, I will shout at her saying "I give you seats and you scold me? F*(&(*& OFF ok!"
you probably won't do that. In person, ur probably more meek than a mouse. -
Originally posted by FireIce:
yeah one side of the story
like the chwee kueh and the fork
And women being women, the story could have been badly distorted to her advantage.
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could be just an isolated incident.
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seriously, i hate this kind of people, especially they think they clever, and still HAO LIAN...
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It is S'pore's culture to be rude. So as a proud S'porean i need to embarace rudeness as part of my life.
Unlike your story i will be rude only to angmos. I am very kind to Malays, Indians and Chinese. Ang mos are here taking our exec positions and they strut like a peacock. So if an angmo ask for directions, say '....well..............u just have to go find the place yourself'.
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I know some elderly people dun like ppl giving up their seats but If teengaers and adults pretend not to see them, It says something about our country.