There are few of us who escape feelings of fear and self-doubt as we
go about our life. Not to worry! We can all learn how to create within
us a wonderful sense of confidence and peace of mind as we face all
situations in our lives. Here are very powerful tools to help us push
through the fear and self-doubt in order to create a beautiful and
satisfying life...
1. Build your sense of trust in yourself. Your first task is to build
the trust that whatever happens in your life, you can handle it all.
Right now, think of something about any area of your life that is
bothering you and repeat to yourself ten times the important words,
"Whatever happens, I'll handle it." I suspect you will immediately
begin to feel a sense of peace within your being. These are important
words to have when the "what if's" come up. "What if I lose my job?
I'll handle it." "What if I get sick? I'll handle it." "What if
something happens to my marriage? I'll handle it." And what does "I'll
handle it" mean? It means, "I'll learn from it. I'll grow from it.
I'll make it a triumph!"
2. Do your very best, then let go of the outcome. To help you let go,
develop the trust that "It's all happening perfectly." This calming
affirmation is a shortened version of: "I've done my best, but even if
things don't go the way I want them to go, I will simply find a way to
be enriched by whatever life brings me. I will learn and grow from it
all. Therefore, it truly is all happening perfectly." Repetition over
and over again of this wonderful affirmation, will definitely quiet
the negative chatter of the mind and help you let go of the outcome.
Peace at last!
3. Stop complaining. Complaining is a big clue that you are not taking
responsibility for your experience of life. Instead of seeing life's
obstacles as problems, see them as opportunities, opening the door to
growth. When you can control your reactions to whatever life hands
you, you have the upper hand. You now have a choice: You can create
your own misery...or you can create your own sense of growth and
wellbeing. That's power! Every time you have the opportunity to
stretch your capacity to handle the world around you, the more
powerful and confident you will feel.
4. Yes, "Feel the fear and do it anyway." Often we think, "I'll do it
when I am not so afraid." But in reality, it works the other way
round. The "doing it" comes before the fear goes away. The only way to
get rid of the fear of doing something is to go out and do it. Action
is the key. Once you have done something you have feared a number of
times, guess what happens...the fear of that particular situation goes
away. And it's then time to further expand the comfort zone and move
on to the next situation you fear. That's what growth is all about.
And as your confidence builds, it will become easier and easier to
"feel the fear and do it anyway!"
5. When making decisions, adopt the "no-lose" philosophy. The
"no-lose" philosophy tells us that "I can't lose - regardless of the
outcome of the decision I make. I look forward to the opportunities
for learning and for growing that either choice gives me." Remember,
if you learn through your "mistakes," there are no mistakes! In this
way, the "no-lose" approach to decision-making guarantees that all
your decisions will be the right decisions.
6. Know that you count. Know that your presence makes a difference. If
you don't understand this very important fact, act as if you do make a
difference! Just keep asking yourself the "act-as-if" question in all
areas of your life: "What would I be doing if I were really important
here?" Make a list and then take action. Soon you will "live into" the
realization that you really are important.
7. Commit 100% to all areas of your life. That means when you are at
work or with your family and friends, or meeting new people, or
volunteering in the community...or whatever...give it all you've got,
holding nothing back. When you commit to giving 100%, your sense of
focus, excitement, participation, enjoyment, fulfillment, and
happiness come alive. What a glorious feeling that is!
8. Say "thank you" a lot. Saying "thank you" is a wonderful way to
make important connections in all areas of your life. The words "thank
you" can also help you appreciate and focus on all the good that is
around you, thus helping you release any feelings of anger and
resentment you may be holding. You can see why the words "thank you"
are two of the most powerful words ever spoken.
If you, step by step, begin incorporating into your life these tips,
your sense of confidence and peace of mind will grow and grow.
Remember: there is plenty of time...but now is definitely the time to
begin!