My story. Pls help...
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those say say only most prob are single........
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Originally posted by Nccc1701n:
Like i said before. We are only humans. And humans are not made to perfection. At times, our mind can stray and drift.
It is always easy to say what a perfect boyfriend should be like. We think he should be like this, we think he should act like this... I think that actions can be done to show how much we care for others.The thing is we are talking about the mind now. Can the perfect boyfriend mentioned by mancha ever exist?? A guy with completely zero lust or even thoughts about lust. It is easier said. But I still do agree at some point in mancha's statement that faith is important in a relationship.
no one is perfect n no one will ever will be.
i guess temptations are always ard but it's how a person handle temptations. at the end of the day, your choices that you make matters
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Agreed...
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I have to stressed that i am in a relationship and is not married yet.
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Im 25 btw BrUtUs
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i say in fairness, that a bf who can control himself and not act on his thoughts and lust, is one thats truely trustworthy. One who doesnt have any stray thoughts is just a freak and probably doesn't exist. Its those who can face their temptations and conquer them thru strength of will who are the true champions.
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Hello Nccc1701n
Guess what, having occassional thoughts like yours is definitely normal.And i know what is making it from being occassional and rare to frequent, and that is, you're finding excuses (the only person you've ever have sex with, not as turned on any more etc...)
Since you love your girlfriend, stop yourself from thinking, much less acting on those thoughts! -
you can't stop thoughts, genius. Its been proven that its scientifically impossible to make yourself not think about something.
For eg: Do not think of a pink elephant.
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Two types of people like TS:
The Enthusiastic Gigolo
or the Overly-Horned Single And Too Desperate
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Originally posted by 4Justice:
i say in fairness, that a bf who can control himself and not act on his thoughts and lust, is one thats truely trustworthy. One who doesnt have any stray thoughts is just a freak and probably doesn't exist. Its those who can face their temptations and conquer them thru strength of will who are the true champions.
ts still young so go concentrate on making more $$$ rather than sex.. learn to control urself like said above... -
Thank you all very much for your comments. I do agree with most of your comments except a few. I dont really think im overly horny. Haha..
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Originally posted by Nccc1701n:
Thank you all very much for your comments. I do agree with most of your comments except a few. I dont really think im overly horny. Haha..
feel free to add ur tots/sexperience in sgsex... -
In my point of view, i think 4Justice's statement makes pretty good sense. It is not hard to think about sex. We may sometimes think about it in the oddest of places. To be able to control this thought is another thing. I guess ultimately, its all about self control.
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But of course. The other point about trust and not telling her is just practicality. I am a girl, I know how irrational we are about things, and how many of us can consider "thinking about sex with someone else" as betrayal and cheating, as if humans are one dimensional beings. Some things are better left unsaid to avoid complications.
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most interesting...
wondering if ur gf is thinking like wise also hor...
how would u feel if ur gf is bedding some other guys leh...
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Have a talk with your gf , see how it turns out . Its all control .
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some people dont get it. its not about "how would u feel" its about whats the best course of action to take to maintain the peace.
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its normal la.
you go look at the world(hollywood and the chinese entertainment sence)
everyday you see this type of news.
we are no saints. its a sad sad world we live in when the things we dream of young does not turn out to be when we are old.
i wonder if the god up there is really watching over what we are doing.
and why he does not do anything to help.
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Originally posted by 13lackhound:
Have a talk with your gf , see how it turns out . Its all control .
Wah. Later TS GF think a bit, then go for a full makeover. He see liao, wah......... No resistance one.
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If you could even think about wanting to try another girl, how can you still want to spend the rest of your life with her. Its quite an irony don't you think. 10 years you've put into the relationship, does it really stand for something? You love her for exactly who she is, sex included, that's why you're able to be with her for so long. And that alone deserves a standing ovation. These days, 10 years is really really something. just continue loving her for who she is, and those thoughts of wanting another girl will naturally fade away.Even if they don't, they won't bother you till this extent.I dont know if you as a 25year old would understand the words of a 21 year old.Haha...
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10 yrs in a relationship is not easy. I feel that i can understand u as my Ex was also like u. We had been 2gether for almost 8yrs. It is pretty normal for guys to think like u......
We discussed this topic out of the blue and came to conclusions:
1) He can do any monkey business behind my back since we are not married, since i dun know that it's fine. But if i found out, means sayonara........
2) I was his 1st, same as he was mine, we can play open and bo chap till the day we get marry, we have to be faithful.....
3) Or we break off once one of us have this thought, as that means our relationship has cracks......
Nobody can define what is right or wrong in a relationship. Should a 3rd party exists, that means both of us did not cultivate our relationship properly. So the above for u to ponder....
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Come back here and ask again after being faithful for another 10 yrs...
Den I tell you how to control somemore :]