nagging and unsupportive wife
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just wana share my personal sorrows.
my work require me to do regional to support customers and looking for business opportunity.
everytime i received requirement to do overseas, i felt worried and scare that i had to broke the news to her and get nags, complain from her. imagine i had to do it 2-3times mth.
i had good relationship with my daughter. somehow i feel she is not doing enough as a mother. my daughter enjoy my companion more than with her. it is not that she is a disciplianiam but she simply bochap and chap the wrong things. whenever i am in singapore i will play with my daughter and bring her to outing, watch elmo show, barnie show, cartoons and chat with her about anything.
i handle all bills at home. i need to remember when to pay utilities bills, conservation charges, pay her credit card bills ( she pay me when she received her pay which is normally after due date). but most of myfriends is handle by their wife.
she doesnt save, spent every cents of her pay. i try to save around 20-30k a year for my old age and also plan for my children education fees.
my mom bought breakfast every weekend for her. she never bother to wake up to buy any breakfast for me or my mom.
she brought her dog but seldom walk it. now the dog become another of my good pals, which is the only one that bother to wait for me to come home after late work in office.
she only cook less than 10 times for the family in 5 yrs. And seldom offer to pay for dinning out although her pay is quite OK.
that is my version of the story i try to ask myself think on her side.
i told myself, no matter what for the sake of children i will hold this family together.
do any bros have any similar less than happy marriage.
please share if you can. -
blood-sucker !
divorce ! -
YOu are not alone. if you go to my forum (shan_cai's place), you will know that I have gone through the same, and a few times much more worst.Originally posted by reyes:just wana share my personal sorrows.
my work require me to do regional to support customers and looking for business opportunity.
everytime i received requirement to do overseas, i felt worried and scare that i had to broke the news to her and get nags, complain from her. imagine i had to do it 2-3times mth.....
.....that is my version of the story i try to ask myself think on her side.
i told myself, no matter what for the sake of children i will hold this family together.
do any bros have any similar less than happy marriage.
please share if you can.
But I make it a point to remind myself, communication is the key to make things better. In the meantime, don't forget to do what makes you happy. Really, if others cannot make you happy, then I am sure you know how you can make yourself happy. Don't forget to make your dreams come true. Life is too short to live unhappily. -
no sex too?
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Damn, its stories like these that make me wonder why men want to get married or even get into relationships with women. I feel sorry for you man.
You need to communicate to her everything you wrote in your post and explain why you are so unhappy.
Tell her you want her to contribute more, carry her own weight, be more responsible, etc etc.....
And be tough with her, dont be too nice.
Its a pity you already have children so divorce is not really an option.
Take it as a lesson not to trust women or rush into marriage. -
why is it in bar forum, between?
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Moral of the story.
DO NOT GET MARRIED unless you are very very sure the woman is the right one for you.
Shit man whats wrong with singaporean women nowadays.......so useless. -
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I feel for you d00d. You should post this in AA where you'll receive better replies. Stay strong!
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Wha, u can save 20-30k, wow! rich ya.Originally posted by reyes:just wana share my personal sorrows.
my work require me to do regional to support customers and looking for business opportunity.
everytime i received requirement to do overseas, i felt worried and scare that i had to broke the news to her and get nags, complain from her. imagine i had to do it 2-3times mth.
i had good relationship with my daughter. somehow i feel she is not doing enough as a mother. my daughter enjoy my companion more than with her. it is not that she is a disciplianiam but she simply bochap and chap the wrong things. whenever i am in singapore i will play with my daughter and bring her to outing, watch elmo show, barnie show, cartoons and chat with her about anything.
i handle all bills at home. i need to remember when to pay utilities bills, conservation charges, pay her credit card bills ( she pay me when she received her pay which is normally after due date). but most of myfriends is handle by their wife.
she doesnt save, spent every cents of her pay. i try to save around 20-30k a year for my old age and also plan for my children education fees.
my mom bought breakfast every weekend for her. she never bother to wake up to buy any breakfast for me or my mom.
she brought her dog but seldom walk it. now the dog become another of my good pals, which is the only one that bother to wait for me to come home after late work in office.
she only cook less than 10 times for the family in 5 yrs. And seldom offer to pay for dinning out although her pay is quite OK.
that is my version of the story i try to ask myself think on her side.
i told myself, no matter what for the sake of children i will hold this family together.
do any bros have any similar less than happy marriage.
please share if you can.
Didn't know rich man also have problem. -
U guys never agree on the housework and % of bill for household expenses to be borne by each party before marriage?
Anyway, what is her concern when you travel overseas?
Is she afriad that you will cheat on her? -
man dont pour his sorrows to aunt agony .....Originally posted by RonDaGuy:why you put in bar....
should go Aunt Agony...
jiayou la big bro.
man drown his sorrows in bar ....... -
but this bar is different worOriginally posted by InnoHippo:man dont pour his sorrows to aunt agony .....
man drown his sorrows in bar .......
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Did you communicate with her with regards to all these issues?
I am sure that will help.
But if she is the super unreasonable type then ... haiss.
Feel sad for you.
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thanks bro, for some form of encouragement.
i dont feel pity of myself. just pity my children that i can give them a happy family. anyway i still do my part as a father and breadwinner.
it never easy to really know a woman during courtship. trust me. everything seem perfect till marriage.
most ppl will say woman scare marry the wrong man. but i feel, men too will feel the strain of marrying a wrong woman.
i had a few friends who are divorce with kids. the lost their kids and had to pay maintanence fees to their ex-wife. suddenly most of them end up in financial crisis.
i will post in AA. thanks for encouragement.