Christian girls
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Originally posted by Chin Eng:
it depends on who you ask... there is a verse in the Bible about being "unequally yoked" 2 Cor 6:14.many Christians take this as the rule to marriage.
also most churches will not officiate a marriage if one party is not a Christian.
nonetheless, there are those who will marry a non-Christian.
Indeed my church gt christian with non christian de. -
Originally posted by -StarDust-:
Indeed my church gt christian with non christian de.
in my opinion, it is not as big a deal as some people think it is.....we are all products of the choices that we make.... if you have a non-Christian girlfriend, and you love her, and the church do not want to conduct a wedding for you, so be it....
and if these choices lead to any unhappiness in the future, they remain your choices. live with it!
and I don't think God is so offended that way that He's going to zap with curses if you marry a non-Christian....
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Originally posted by Chin Eng:
in my opinion, it is not as big a deal as some people think it is.....we are all products of the choices that we make.... if you have a non-Christian girlfriend, and you love her, and the church do not want to conduct a wedding for you, so be it....
and if these choices lead to any unhappiness in the future, they remain your choices. live with it!
and I don't think God is so offended that way that He's going to zap with curses if you marry a non-Christian....
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Thanks for ur encouragement Chin Eng.
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Originally posted by Honeybunz:
As long as you are not rude, not insulting another faith, I don't see how offensive it can be. this is a christian forum. ppl of other faith or no faith, wan to come here, they have to keep an open mind.Can you imagine if I go Buddhism forum and start saying that I am offended whenever they share about karma and Buddha's teaching? It's ridiculous right? They reserve the right to say Buddha's teaching very good how good how good in their forum. Likewise, this is a christian forum.
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I think that such 'mixed' marriages are good opportunities also to show Christ's love to the other party. For example, my own dad got baptised a few years ago after many years of supporting my Christian mum in raising my bro and I up as Christians
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Originally posted by Chin Eng:
in my opinion, it is not as big a deal as some people think it is.....we are all products of the choices that we make.... if you have a non-Christian girlfriend, and you love her, and the church do not want to conduct a wedding for you, so be it....
and if these choices lead to any unhappiness in the future, they remain your choices. live with it!
and I don't think God is so offended that way that He's going to zap with curses if you marry a non-Christian....
I firmly believe that different religion background is not an issue. What matter most is that both must be able to accept & love each other, a everlasting happy marriage is possible. -
Originally posted by SBS 8030 L:I firmly believe that different religion background is not an issue. What matter most is that both must be able to accept & love each other, a everlasting happy marriage is possible.
yeah, but there are many who are hung up on the unequally yorked thing.... some churches actively discourages believers and unbelievers to be paired up. -
Originally posted by Chin Eng:
in my opinion, it is not as big a deal as some people think it is.....we are all products of the choices that we make.... if you have a non-Christian girlfriend, and you love her, and the church do not want to conduct a wedding for you, so be it....
and if these choices lead to any unhappiness in the future, they remain your choices. live with it!
and I don't think God is so offended that way that He's going to zap with curses if you marry a non-Christian....
rightly said.however, reality speaking, during courtship, alot of things and differences can be ignored.
after marriage, after all the lovey grovey feelings are gone, will such differences in world view, ideology, cause any unhappiness? will a family filled with conflicts be happy?
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are u guys still talking about girls?
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Originally posted by Vanilla cake:
are u guys still talking about girls?
Of course
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Originally posted by TTFU:
Of course
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Originally posted by vince69:
rightly said.however, reality speaking, during courtship, alot of things and differences can be ignored.
after marriage, after all the lovey grovey feelings are gone, will such differences in world view, ideology, cause any unhappiness? will a family filled with conflicts be happy?
hi vince... long time...
reality as i see it, is, even Christian couples get into relationship problem..... i just think we place too much emphasis on the "unequally yoke" thing.
and reality is, we really don't know what is going to happen in the future.....
think of all the "unequally yoked" couples in the Bible....
Ruth was a Moabite woman and there is no indication that she worships Jehovah.
Esther husband was a Persian king, whom I am sure also does not worship Jehovah.
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Originally posted by Chin Eng:
hi vince... long time...
reality as i see it, is, even Christian couples get into relationship problem..... i just think we place too much emphasis on the "unequally yoke" thing.
and reality is, we really don't know what is going to happen in the future.....
think of all the "unequally yoked" couples in the Bible....
Ruth was a Moabite woman and there is no indication that she worships Jehovah.
Esther husband was a Persian king, whom I am sure also does not worship Jehovah.
So, unker Chin Eng means that religion has no place in marriage. -
Originally posted by Herzog_Zwei:
So, unker Chin Eng means that religion has no place in marriage.nope that's not what I said... what I said is, let each couple make the choice themselves. the church leaders should not go at start making issues about it.
at the end of the day, it's a decision between two people only.
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Originally posted by Chin Eng:
nope that's not what I said... what I said is, let each couple make the choice themselves. the church leaders should not go at start making issues about it.
at the end of the day, it's a decision between two people only.
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Ah TS, your thread abit misleading...
You should rewrite - "How to seduce Christian girls"... hehe...
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Originally posted by Just_do_it_lah:
Ah TS, your thread abit misleading...
You should rewrite - "How to seduce Christian girls"... hehe...
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Originally posted by TTFU:
Of course
Mr bean , u forget his bear.
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well of coz its wrong to convert to Christianity and go to church for girls.
BUT if through these girls u meet, u are truly convicted and become faithful and love God. then yes that's fine.
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Originally posted by Chin Eng:
hi vince... long time...
reality as i see it, is, even Christian couples get into relationship problem..... i just think we place too much emphasis on the "unequally yoke" thing.
and reality is, we really don't know what is going to happen in the future.....
think of all the "unequally yoked" couples in the Bible....
Ruth was a Moabite woman and there is no indication that she worships Jehovah.
Esther husband was a Persian king, whom I am sure also does not worship Jehovah.
Hi unkermaybe different people understand this "unequally yoke" thing differently. However, this is a real problem that need to be dealt with seriously.
to me, this is not about christian/non-christian or christian/christian or non-christian/non-christian thing, its between two individual person.
to me, unless these differences in ideology, world view, characters, expectation, ...etc are dealt with. these will potientially be problem for the future which will result in heartaches.
I agree that this is about choices, but personally, its best that both parties deal with these differences before committing to any relationship.
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I do believe that two persons of different faith can still work out a good relationship and eventually marriage, cuz I have seen real life cases of that.
My guy colleague whom I always thought was a Catholic, told me recently that he's a Buddhist. Only his wife and kids go to church. So every Sunday, the wife and children will attend Mass together while he goes cycling. Then they will meet for lunch. The wife even joked about it saying "I am a Catholic while my husband is a triathlete".
He's married for many years, and his eldest kid is already 16 years old.
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Originally posted by Honeybunz:
I do believe that two persons of different faith can still work out a good relationship and eventually marriage, cuz I have seen real life cases of that.
My guy colleague whom I always thought was a Catholic, told me recently that he's a Buddhist. Only his wife and kids go to church. So every Sunday, the wife and children will attend Mass together while he goes cycling. Then they will meet for lunch. The wife even joked about it saying "I am a Catholic while my husband is a triathlete".
He's married for many years, and his eldest kid is already 16 years old.
Happy to see that.
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Originally posted by vince69:
Hi unkermaybe different people understand this "unequally yoke" thing differently. However, this is a real problem that need to be dealt with seriously.
to me, this is not about christian/non-christian or christian/christian or non-christian/non-christian thing, its between two individual person.
to me, unless these differences in ideology, world view, characters, expectation, ...etc are dealt with. these will potientially be problem for the future which will result in heartaches.
I agree that this is about choices, but personally, its best that both parties deal with these differences before committing to any relationship.
that's exactly it isn't it? that's what I am saying.
if both parties have dealt with it.... i don't see why outsider need to have a say in it.
however, regardless of how we deal with it, problems and conflicts will still continue to happen.
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Originally posted by Chin Eng:
that's exactly it isn't it? that's what I am saying.
if both parties have dealt with it.... i don't see why outsider need to have a say in it.
however, regardless of how we deal with it, problems and conflicts will still continue to happen.
yes, conflicts and problem, we will have and continue to have, its how we deal with these that help us grow.however, there are things that can be dealt with, before it becomes a problem/conflict, these should be delt with, very fast.
as for outsider, ... love is blind... sometime, these "outsider" meant well when they raise this alarm (maybe, they need training on communication skill, haha)...
anyway... good to discuss this with you, Unker...