A Church mate has commented.....
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that he dun like me wearing bermudas to Church. Should I care about what he say?
I am not even close to this church mate. -
wah, serious ah??
anything wrong with tat?
why he so kpo?
i think my priest ever said dressing mark ur respect to the church as well, its not all abt u but as a whole. -
hoho.. i wore shorts, a shirt and slippers to city harvest b4
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that fellow, quite superficial hor.
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dont noe, being casual and comfortable is one thing, but i thought that at times when you go for some formal event or a place of great importance you shouldnt be sloppily dressed
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I have been following rules from Monday to Friday.
The weekend is the only two days I can be myself. Somemore faith is something between me and God, and I do not know why he dun like me not wearing pants.
One part of me tell me to comply, but the naturally rebellious type of me tell me to wear bermudas again morrow.
Somemore, this church mate do not come to service every sunday also. He comment abt me, I haven comment abt him yet. -
aiyah, nothing beats ur faith n love for God.
dun care abt him lo..
my church alot of fashion-dresser.
some maciam going for function, some very casual. -
A comment is a subjective opinion, its that simple a case.Originally posted by laoda99:I have been following rules from Monday to Friday.
The weekend is the only two days I can be myself. Somemore faith is something between me and God, and I do not know why he dun like me not wearing pants.
One part of me tell me to comply, but the naturally rebellious type of me tell me to wear bermudas again morrow.
Somemore, this church mate do not come to service every sunday also. He comment abt me, I haven comment abt him yet.
He is just expressing his opinion on you. You agree with it, take it, if not, dont.
If you turn back and return another comment, you are being too egoistic, too much pride that you cant let go the shame it brings for somebody to say something bad about you that is so true.
Your reply would determine if my post is correct.
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Ok your post makes sense.Originally posted by davidche:A comment is a subjective opinion, its that simple a case.
He is just expressing his opinion on you. You agree with it, take it, if not, dont.
If you turn back and return another comment, you are being too egoistic, too much pride that you cant let go the shame it brings for somebody to say something bad about you that is so true.
Your reply would determine if my post is correct. haha cheers!
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Well np as long as it helps.Originally posted by laoda99:Ok your post makes sense.
Thanks. -
1. If the congregation wishes to view bermudas as inappropriate than the church leadership should make an issue of it.
2. If the leadership has no issue with it, members comments should be ignored.
I am aware that there are some who'd feel that there is appropriate dressing for church, but I just cannot draw the line as to what appropriate dressing is.
I wear bermudas occasionally too.
I think as long as the dressing code does not violate the culture's decency level it should be fine....
....having said that, you did post something on a naked congregation.... so go figure. -
Hmmm .... no wonder I always see Eve wearing apple leaf.
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Whether attending a Protestant Service or a Catholic Mass, I have always been taught the min dress code, eg. no bermudas, no slippers, no shorts, no singlets.
If it is my turn to do the bible reading, I will also refrain from wearing jeans cuz there will be so many hundreds or even thousand eyes looking at me.
The easiest guideline is: ask yourself what you will NOT wear when meeting your boss or attending your relative's wedding at Ritz Carlton -- that will be the dress code that you should NOT have when attending weekend services.
Normal weekday cell group meeting or any other group meetings, ok can realx lah, mostly depending on the group. -
I don't think the issue here is as much as whether it is displeasing to God, as if God would be displeased by what you wear to church.
But here are some things I think every Christian should ponder on.
1. Is going to Church about your Personal Fellowship with God? Or is it about the community coming together as one and together praising and praying to God?
1. Personally. I feel that for the Personal Fellowship, there is little reason to go to Church. Church is more about the community, mutual edification. The word Church, comes from the greek word ekklesia which means "assembly" or "congregation".
The Church has also been defined in the bible as the "Body of Christ" collectively. The Body consists of all that Jesus has drawn to himself.
2. If the Church is about the community, then all actions in the Church should point to edification of this community. In particular, the christian should, out of love for his/her brothers and sisters ponder as to what would/wouldnt stumble one another. This, each should do with sensitivity and honest thinking as opposed to self-justification.
3. Consider one person who comes dressed in a bikini top to a church service (I don't jest, I've seen it before) or in hotpants (I've seen it before too). How much edification does it do to the community? Could it stumble a poor brother who's struggling with sexual sins?
4. Personally. When I go to Church, I too, am tempted several times to go in my berms. I seldom go out in anything else :p. Then I think to myself, if I was going to meet Jesus himself, what would I want to look like? If I was going to meet the King of a country, what would I wear? If I was going for a banquet, what would I wear. When I spend so much time grooming myself for the less important functions, should I not spend more time for God?
5. Certainly Jesus sees the heart. And not the superficial. That's why I refrain from passing judgement. And imho, no christian can pass a judgement on another based on the dressing.
I think the most important thing that most people miss out, is that its not just about me and my Jesus. Church is about all of us. And we should strive to do everything for the mutual benefit of all of us and refrain from putting stumbling blocks.
After considering all this, decide for yourself what would be appropriate. -
hmm. after thinking about it. i think in the end.. Love is the most important.
i read this story about a pastor, who wore bermudas and gave a sermon. i think it was a special event la, so everyone wore very slack and casual or something.
and this old lady was so angry she scolded the pastor and voiced her displeasure.
at first the pastor was annoyed, because he didn't do anything wrong. but after reflecting on it. he knew that love isn't about the black and white and rules and regulations.. its about doing what's best in the other person's interest.
he apologised to her for offending her with his dress code, and promised not to do it again.
now that's love, and what christianity is all about.
its not about doing things right, its about doing the right thing.
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God looks at the heart.
Never be a pharasee. -
I realize you have been harping on this .. since the koreans were kidnapped.Originally posted by dumbdumb!:its not about doing things right, its about doing the right thing. 
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why dont you go in a suit next time and tell him you dont like what he is wearing, whatever he is wearing then.
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I like.....Originally posted by dragg:why dont you go in a suit next time and tell him you dont like what he is wearing, whatever he is wearing then.
seriously, the level of acceptability remains with the leadership and the congregation. If they have a problem with whatever the folks are wearing, then make an announcement lah. -
expand this for you...Originally posted by dumbdumb!:its not about doing things right, its about doing the right thing.
Its about doing the right thing, with the right attitude, in the right way.
how? pray and ask for wisdom... -
haha... I used to wear a full suit to church (when I was studing in Aus), but that was during winter... church service on Firday nights can be quite cold...Originally posted by dragg:why dont you go in a suit next time and tell him you dont like what he is wearing, whatever he is wearing then.
but during summer, bermudas is allow (even the pastor also wear bermudas). -
To expand on that:Originally posted by davidche:God looks at the heart.
Never be a pharasee.
Do not condemn anyone.
But on the same note, in your own heart:
1. Are you more concerned with your own self OR
2. Do you consider the whole community.
Sometimes we do things wrongly because we were unaware. It doesn't make the wrong correct. That's why we need to be taught. -
Then you will see him starting a new thread called "A Church mate has hood me...."Originally posted by dragg:why dont you go in a suit next time and tell him you dont like what he is wearing, whatever he is wearing then. -
lucky for Laoda... that church mate not you.... else it will beOriginally posted by Honeybunz:Then you will see him starting a new thread called "A Church mate has hood me...." 
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** ok... time to go into hiding
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Originally posted by vince69:lucky for Laoda... that church mate not you.... else it will be .........
** ok... time to go into hiding 