Advice for Christian Wedding (Church only)
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Sorry guys but need some advice from some seniors here (The problem is: I have never seen a Christian Wedding. Will be getting married in Dec 2007 next yr so I decided to plan now)
Wedding will be in church (no banquet at night, just a afternoon buffet in church) and we will be approaching the pastor to inform him before hand soon (heard it is six months for synod approval; I am a presbyterian).
What is the list of things I need to do, and any recommendations/advice?
Also got some questions here:
http://www.sgforums.com/?action=thread_display&thread_id=227907 -
I'm not really qualified to say, but I'll say what I know.
1) Start thinking of people to invite.
2) Choose the hymns for the service, find choir if necessary. -
Don't forget the photo presentation of your lovely dovey times together.
meaning your music and photos must be ready. -
And the speech!
Thank your family and the church. Tell the audience why your wife matters to you. Bring in biblical principles. -
I suggest going to ur pastor/priest and clarify with him any doubts u might possese.
Tie in Bible idea of marriage and how this sacrament will help u and ur wife grow in FAITH.
If u intend to conduct the wedding in St Peter Basillica before my papal throne...PM me haha -
Congrats.....
Just sharing from experience....
very very important question,
Talk to your parents, talk to your gf's parents (I am assuming you had already done this), things like date preferance, guest list preparation (in case they want to invite their friends also) ....etc
talk to your pastor
(lats time, we super kiasu, went thru premartial counselling before even any planning begins) You may want to consult him on the details like church hall bookings ...etc all these administrative things.
start to get helpers
(for my case, I luckly, the church bookings/details our friends who is one of the church staff help us did all the administration, and one of our care group friend is a florist help us with the deco)
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Yo friend, a quick reply from me before i go for kopi.Originally posted by laoda99:Sorry guys but need some advice from some seniors here (The problem is: I have never seen a Christian Wedding. Will be getting married in Dec 2007 next yr so I decided to plan now)
Wedding will be in church (no banquet at night, just a afternoon buffet in church) and we will be approaching the pastor to inform him before hand soon (heard it is six months for synod approval; I am a presbyterian).
What is the list of things I need to do, and any recommendations/advice?
Also got some questions here:
http://www.sgforums.com/?action=thread_display&thread_id=227907
You need to :
- Start sourcing for your caterer and plan out the location for food and timing
- Names and Invites
- Prepare your 'brothers' and get them ready for your big day
- Speak to pastor and work out on how to go through the solemnisation smoothly
- Plan on church decor and get her friends and your friends to mess the santuary up!
The rest should be bao by your wedding agency liao.
You're darn lucky to only have a lunch reception.
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Thanks Unker VinceOriginally posted by vince69:Congrats.....
Just sharing from experience....
very very important question,
Talk to your parents, talk to your gf's parents (I am assuming you had already done this), things like date preferance, guest list preparation (in case they want to invite their friends also) ....etc
talk to your pastor
(lats time, we super kiasu, went thru premartial counselling before even any planning begins) You may want to consult him on the details like church hall bookings ...etc all these administrative things.
start to get helpers
(for my case, I luckly, the church bookings/details our friends who is one of the church staff help us did all the administration, and one of our care group friend is a florist help us with the deco)
Yup..we should be having premartial counselling as it is a requirement for couples who want to marry in church.
My gf got the worship leader liao.......should we let him double up as MC or get another one? What kind of other helpers shall I be getting (besides church deco, blow bubbles one etc) ? -
Yup, i am darn luckyOriginally posted by M©+square:Yo friend, a quick reply from me before i go for kopi.
You need to :
- Start sourcing for your caterer and plan out the location for food and timing
- Names and Invites
- Prepare your 'brothers' and get them ready for your big day
- Speak to pastor and work out on how to go through the solemnisation smoothly
- Plan on church decor and get her friends and your friends to mess the santuary up!
The rest should be bao by your wedding agency liao.
You're darn lucky to only have a lunch reception.
Do u have any recommendation for caterer?
What/How would my brothers be helping me? I mean....what can they do to help me?
Church deco thinking of asking church staff to help us....(pay angpao) -
congrats to laoda!!
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u r back!!! Since u are also getting married, can u give me some advice?Originally posted by ben1xy:congrats to laoda!! -
run around, buy things, transport ....etcOriginally posted by laoda99:Yup, i am darn lucky
Do u have any recommendation for caterer?
What/How would my brothers be helping me? I mean....what can they do to help me?
Church deco thinking of asking church staff to help us....(pay angpao)
there will be a lot to be done, especially as the day approaches
psst... can also seek advise from church staff, think they would have know some of those caterer that the church people normally used -
tot you need them in the morning?Originally posted by laoda99:What/How would my brothers be helping me? I mean....what can they do to help me?
or the MCs. -
haha. u're faster than me broOriginally posted by laoda99:u r back!!! Since u are also getting married, can u give me some advice?
well. the only advise i can give u is to really really love n cherish her. it's cliche, but it's true. yet, i think u already know that.
anyway, i'm glad to hear on your upcoming wedding!! take more pics so i can see!! -
Will there be the tea ceremony? My friend held it in church, so you may have it as a consideration. Then you will have to bring the things needed for it.
Ushers! Important to get your guest seated at the right places.
Parking space. Is there enough?
Photo-taking session. Is it organised or own-time, own-target?
Order of service. I think you need to discuss this with your pastor.
Technical crew. Probably best not to leave it to assumption that they will be there.
Appoint flower girl, ring bearer if needed.
Songs for the day. -
I had the blessing of a huge group of friends who are specialists in their own areas and we've helped each one out during our weddings (my own specialty is photography). I've got sign-on drivers, florists, video man, coordinators, etc etc.... but now all old, married, with kids, so cannot run anymore.
The church connection is important. If you are well-connected, it'll solve half (or more) of your logistical problem.
I'd start with a spreadsheet (never underestimate the power of MS Excel).
First column: List down the things you WANT to happen during your wedding.
Second column: List down HOW these things are GOING to happen, ie, who is the best person to do that. Make sure that the person is willing to help.
Third column: Budget - need money? how much money? can afford (yes/no)
Fourth column: The date and time of this event, can sort later in chronological order, so you can monitor the events.
at the end of the day, relax on the big day.... -
Originally posted by Chin Eng:
Or can get someone with this type of connection to help run the event.
I had the blessing of a huge group of friends who are specialists in their own areas and we've helped each one out during our weddings (my own specialty is photography). I've got sign-on drivers, florists, video man, coordinators, etc etc.... but now all old, married, with kids, so cannot run anymore.
The church connection is important. If you are well-connected, it'll solve half (or more) of your logistical problem.
I'd start with a spreadsheet (never underestimate the power of MS Excel).
First column: List down the things you [b]WANT to happen during your wedding.
Second column: List down HOW these things are GOING to happen, ie, who is the best person to do that. Make sure that the person is willing to help.
Third column: Budget - need money? how much money? can afford (yes/no)
Fourth column: The date and time of this event, can sort later in chronological order, so you can monitor the events. at the end of the day, relax on the big day....[/b] -
Laoda,
curious hoh, is there someone among the church staff that is in charge of church wedding co-ordination/hall bookings ? -
CONGRATS TS!
Welcome to your new phase of life!
I dun have much to share as my marriage was a very simple affair with only my mum's & my wife's grandmother's blessings.
But what I advise is that keep the budget in control. Dun overspend. I know couples who overspend and end up in debts which took quite a while to clear. Although once in a lifetime but also be careful about it.
PRe marital counselling?
Buying new house yet? -
Get a Wedding Planner! That should solve most of your headaches.
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money lah, dude....Originally posted by Herzog_Zwei:Get a Wedding Planner! That should solve most of your headaches.
if got plenty of youthful friends, can be done very cheaply. -
Or get an experienced friend to do it loh (angbo requiredOriginally posted by Chin Eng:money lah, dude....
if got plenty of youthful friends, can be done very cheaply. ) -
Tea ceremony will be held at both of our homesOriginally posted by sillyme:Will there be the tea ceremony? My friend held it in church, so you may have it as a consideration. Then you will have to bring the things needed for it.
Ushers! Important to get your guest seated at the right places.
Parking space. Is there enough?
Photo-taking session. Is it organised or own-time, own-target?
Order of service. I think you need to discuss this with your pastor.
Technical crew. Probably best not to leave it to assumption that they will be there.
Appoint flower girl, ring bearer if needed.
Songs for the day.
Parking space will be sufficient as the church is in school
Photo-taking: still deciding whether to take the whole package from a bridal shop. Is there any difference between organised/own-time, own target? -
I think so....the church manager.....Originally posted by vince69:Laoda,
curious hoh, is there someone among the church staff that is in charge of church wedding co-ordination/hall bookings ? -
Pay an amateur wedding planner ang bao only mah... Remember to get your bros to help out in physical areas.Originally posted by Chin Eng:money lah, dude....
if got plenty of youthful friends, can be done very cheaply.