1. Be realistic about each other.
Don't try to turn your partner into something he or she is not. Let's face it,
guys-there's only 1 Pamela Anderson in the world, and even she has had her
implants removed! Give your gal a break and understand that her physical
appearance is NOT going to change overnight with the help of a few facials
or treatments. And ladies, Brad Pitt has already been taken, so you are gonna
have to do with what your guy is like! Chill out, love each other for what you
are. There is more to your partner than what meets the eye.
2. Always talk things out.
Now guys, I know this is not ur fave pastime or mode of resolving issues, but u
know what? This works with the gals. Don't make assumptions about each other's
feelings. Learn to xpress urself better so that ur partner undrstands what u're
angry about, or hurt about, or even happy about! When u stop talking to each
other from the heart, it's the beginning of the end.
3. Do stuff together.
Make an effort to do things together. Do some sports or involve urselves in some
shared activities; something both of u enjoy or are interested in. It could be
as simple as watching movies together, or jus strolling hand-in-hand down
Orchard Road. Watch soccor with him once in a while though the green patch on TV
puts u to sleep in 3 seconds. And guys, do give in if ur gal asks for another
day at window-shopping, rather than suggest that she go out with her girlfriends
for "that sort of activities" instead. If u're spending more time with ur
friends rather than with ur partner, it's a warning sign that u're drifting
apart!!!
4. Meet each other halfway.
If he agrees to throw out that rotten T-shirt with the "The_Rock" print, u
shouldn't kick up much of a fuss if he asks u to keep ur room tidy. There's
gotta be a little giving and taking in a relationship, so learn to meet each
other halfway.
5.Show ur love
Buy her flowers or candy or perfume everynow and then, even if u have been
together for 5years. It's wonderful to continue showing someone that u care for
him or her. Cook him a special meal, paint him a Valentine's Day card. Knit him
mini-socks he can't wear ( like for decoration purposes => ), buy him a packet
of milk for breakfast, or pack his wardrobe for him...so he knows you can still
be romantic and loving despite having been together for quite a while.
6. Respect each other.
Stop making jokes about her hair or skin, or whatever it is u love to laugh at.
Ask urself if she thinks if its funny. And if he has an inferiority complex
about his height, stop ogling at tall guys and make him feel worse! Love is
about respecting each other's feelings and being sensitive to each other at all
times.
7. Bury the past.
Stop bringing up the past. Gals..don't bring up the happy things about you and
your ex to your guy, it would jus make him jealous or unhappy. And guys, don't
talk about the happy times that you had with ur ex or mention about her in ur
every other sentence as it would make your gal feel unhappy and she might think
that you saying all this because you are gonna get back with your ex or not interested
in her anymore.
8. Sit on ur jealousy.
All of us go through spells of insecurity at the beginning of the relationship,
but don't translate that insecurity into jealousy. If you are gonna go through
your partner's mail and cupboard, and eavesdropping on conversations, you
know something is wrong - with you!!! Jealousy is like a poison that slowly
spreads through the relationship before finally killing it. Trust your partner;
love has to have trust in it.
9. Keep ur commitments to each other.
If ur partner is standing you up all the time and cancelling dates and breaking
promises, you need to talk! If you're in a relationship, make your partner your
priority and don't disappoint them if you can help it. It's really terrible when
someone promises to take u to dinner, and then calls to cancel it. Don't make
promises you can't keep. If your partner starts to feel that he/she is not important
enough to you, you may jus lose him/her.
10. Be honest.
Honesty is not scowling at how awful she looks first thing in the morning, or
telling him that he has the biceps of a fly~~! When we say "be honest", we mean
expressing your feelings clearly, not being bitingly cruel. When you are hurt, say
so, and when you are angry, tell him/her, without getting hysterical. If you can't
be honest with ur partner, who can u be honest with? ?Love is also about
honesty, and a relationship where no honesty exists probably isn't worth it!
