Cheating, unfaithful partners, spouses etc thread.
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Simple, we all are humans, and humans like new stuffs, new house, new cars, new laptop, new environment as in tour, new clothing as in fashion, but as for partners, we can only have one and find it difficult to change, cos humans, unlike non living things, got feeling and all those emotions. Therefore, the result is that changing bf or gf is a hard and painful process, someone will get hurt or even killed, so people resort to cheating resulting in unfaithfulness and all sort of funny relationship. Cheating is simply built on us, all of us cheat to survive, some may cheat more, some less. And if you dun cheat, you are simply a nerd or good for nothing.
And frankly, without cheating, you get no gf or bf for the rest of your life. I have to cheat my bf too, sometime i go disco, i have to tell him i go temple, otherwise he may not take it and that end our relationship.
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cheaters..nothti to discuss..they r simply gd for nothi...pls dun do things against u conscience..i know somethi can be chated for a gd purpose..but if not pls dun chear..cos u will get no where...things come around and will go around...u cheat ppl, ppl will cheat u back...
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well, be happy that you got quality replies so far..
if there's those ppl who just post nothing but stuffs like
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+ 1
NPNT
some lame remarks not related to topic..
than you'll be in for a long ride of disappointment to starting another thread..
haha..
well back to the thread..
cheating..
to each has their own definition..
but i would agree with the fact that for those cheaters..they definitely got a reason to cheat..which is their partner are too boring..
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monogamy is a responsibility which many ppl cannot afford.. they do not realise that a relationship is just like a job, an assignment, a piece of homework.. u have to be responsible, u have to put in ur best, in order for it to work out..
those who cheat, do so becoz they are bored, becoz they want, like what angel7030 said, a change.. they do not want to stick to their old 'job', their old 'assignment', they don't want to be doing homework all the way, they want to run out to the playground and have fun before coming home to slp..
here's a quote from a movie i watched, where the bad guy is trying to teach the good guy to fool ard.. he said, "life is like golf, if u cant be playing the same hole for all ur life' <-- pun intended..
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sounds like a school assignment/report....
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y men cheat..cuz they love families. as in they love creating many families with different females. they like novelty. think back how you first put your arms around a gal in an intimate way. how the first kiss was shared. and then, you start think how it will be with another gal and another and another..
y gals cheat...another male happen to feel their void when their current male is not around.
as the buddhist wisdom says, se ji shi kong, kong ji shi se..when you feel empty, you feel horny..horny when you are empty...
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Try not to twist any religion to explain your logic.
In buddhist, "se4" does not mean lust. Buddism does not condone lust and acts agaist oneself or others. "se4" in the context of the heart sutra means the human state. It is explaining that life is transient and empty.
On the topic of cheating, I was approached to cheat a number of times as well. There's lots who cheat and even people who look the guai guai one also cheat. So don't judge the book by its cover. These people who cheat will always have an excuse, however lame just to cheat. Then they will tell you everyone's doing it (even when its not true), so you are not hip to not join in and tempt you. Have you not heard, when people are low class and shameless, they think everyone is as low class and shameless as them? Everyone has moral standards that's different from ours, and its their life, its their choice.
Stand your ground, cause cheating really hurts you and the other person. Remember the Sun Screen Song: Don't be erckless with other people's heart. Don't let others be reckless with yours. There's no point to waste our short lifetime here with these kinds of meaningless relationships and painful acts and become progressively unhappy and bitter about life, love and people. If you believe in karma, what goes round, comes round.
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Hi, I have come across a lot of cheating cases or people suspecting that they have been cheated in my blog www.aluvguru.blogspot.com
There are many reasons why people cheat on their relationship;
1) For excitement
2) Can't decide what they want
3) Can't control their emotions and feelings
4) Think they can handle both sides and enjoy the benefits of having 2 gf or bf
5) No sense of responsibility and commitment
6) Tired of their present relationship
7) When 1 party is away for work or studies
8) Enjoy the feeling of being loved or admired by another person
9) Didn't know it's cheating until things get too far
10) Not satisfy by present partner in terms of sex, money, care and concern etc.
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NIKE ~Just Do It~ other ppl's gf and wife i both try b4.... officially reason will be.. they love mi too much lor... unofficially.. they just need more lor..
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well, its not cheating as long as no emotions are involve right?
just pure physical pleasure
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Originally posted by I-like-flings(m):
NIKE ~Just Do It~ other ppl's gf and wife i both try b4.... officially reason will be.. they love mi too much lor... unofficially.. they just need more lor..
lol.. who better to ask than u.. -
i feel that you cannot stop pple from cheating as long as there is a need to cheat.
the bottom line is you need to cheat in order to get something.
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The thrill of the cheat. The thrill of getting it on with someone else's hot wife. That is the ultimate thrill already. Knowing u are able to attract another's wife. But the consequences.. can be.. fatal. lol
*learns from his mistakes* i dun dare liaw.
But i try not to cheat on my gf. But sometimes being honest lppl.. cheat also lppl. Damned if u do.. damned if u dont. I suppose thats what it is to be in a relationship, the uncertainty. Knowing all = boring.
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bored of bf/gf
1 is not enough
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i liked this girl, but found out she has been 2 timing her boyfriend with another classmate of hers recently. decided not to woo her after knowing that.
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Why even bother analyzing possibilities? I say go out and discover people individually - instead of allow yourself to be subjected to preconceive notion of what would constitute a cheating behavior.
Love reasoning and Love behavior is completely mutually exclusive.
Some fellow might bitch about their other half the whole day, but still not will cheat on him/her ultimately – while others might portray a loving figure, as he/she screw or get screwed by another behind the scene.
There are hundreds of dimensions to the cause of cheating – attributing to a single possibility might not even be near to the real situation.
Don’t think about Love – learn it.
P.S: Although I won’t edit it, but please don’t come advertise your own blog site to boost readership.
Cheers
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pple cheat for various reasons. for self esteem. for the fun of it. for the excitment. in our current society it is getting hrder and harder to stay faithful. humans are like that aint. cant settle for what they own but covet for more. it isn't wrong but cheating is just one of the wrong approaches pple take to get better stuff
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some people cheat for the happiness of others, just like a husband tell his wife that his work is good and easy to ease her worry, but actually it is a tough job that is demanding and stressful. But because of family and not wanting them to worry, he cheated.
So sometime cheating is mend to be good ya.
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wah.. so much for him abstaining.. end up the girl play him.. sad.. maybe is because the girl thought he cannot stand up for singapore?
coz she has to convince him and stuff..
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Originally posted by Stucktoes:
Thanks for all your contributions so far. I have also learnt that singaporean youths aren't as stupid or as immature as some adult like to say, all of us definitely know how to be serious when it comes to serious stuffs.
Anyway, the reason why I posted this thread is because of pain. I have got a friend who is a guy, he loves his girlfriend alot and refuses to ask for sex from her, they have been together for almost 3 years, his gf is very good looking and to prove he truly love her, he refuses to have sex with her and practise self-control to prove not to others, but to the girl herself that he likes her not for her physical looks.
Eventually, the girl convinced him that she truly believes in him and that he should stop depriving himself of his needs (a guy will always have his needs no matter what, the biological clock is designed to constantly reproduce to avoid dying out of our race) and they finally did it. All was well.
Then eventually, he found out that she was screwing other guys behind his back, and he confronted her. All she did was justify and make it sound like it was no big deal, and that if he couldnt take it, it wasnt her problem.
I could honestly feel the pain when he told me this story. Thankfully, he is a man, he moved on. If it happens to me, I dont think I would be as strong as him.
IMO, its true that we as human beings love variety, we have our own fetishes and such but the whole point of being loyal and faithful is to control ourselves from these. If we do such a thing, and justify by giving reasons as stated by some of you above, then thats not being faithful already, and when you are not faithful, no point justifying anymore.
What you guys think?
I am not that young. Well, your friend met a bad incident with a lousy person. Hope he is not hung up over that girl and that he deserves a better girl. As said before, people will come out with whatever reasons that suit them to explain for their behaviour, especially where its hurtful. But you are deciding for your own life, whether you want to be faithful or not. No one can tell you what you should think. I know people who cheat and lost their job. I also know people who cheat and nothig happened to them. But ultimately, I know that whatever goes around, will always without a doubt, comes around. Maybe not immediately, but eventually. It is unwise to see thing just from one case, it also is not good to hold extreme views. If being faithful is not useful. Then love, marriage, hope and everything in this world is also useless. They are not true, will never be and everything is just a lie. Where then does it end?
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Originally posted by Stucktoes:
What you guys think?
Your friend and her just do not belong to the same group lor... It is lucky that your friend found out about these and move on before things get complicated.
The incident that you mention is quite common. But to me, it gets even more disgusting if as time passed, girl wants to settle down due to age and decide to be faithful and loyal. Then she wants to find a guy tat is faithful and loyal too or expects her guy to be faithful and loyal too... Not because of she thinks that what she does is wrong in the past or she loves him but because she thinks that it is just time for her to reach to the next stage of life.
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Originally posted by angel7030:
some people cheat for the happiness of others, just like a husband tell his wife that his work is good and easy to ease her worry, but actually it is a tough job that is demanding and stressful. But because of family and not wanting them to worry, he cheated.
So sometime cheating is mend to be good ya.
TS means cheating one's partner (being unfaithful, having affairs etc), not lying....